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But for such a sexually free venue, there are certainly a lot of rules. No photos. Certain areas are off limits to men unless accompanied by a woman. No touching of any kind unless given permission.
No means no, of course, but the club takes it a step further: only yes means yes. That means there are no sexy times until consent is verbalized, says Fatima Mechtab, the marketing and events co-ordinator at Oasis, which had approximately 16, members last year.
The clothing-optional space, where sex is allowed, is by its nature vulnerable, she says. The rules are to make sure everyone feels safe, comfortable and encourage people to talk. And, she says, rules make relationships better.
Couples and the locations they go to play have to create an environment in which all parties feel not only safe, but also heard. She and her husband have been swinging for a decade.
While it might seem exhausting to always talk about sex, Hunt says it means both parties feel their needs are being heard. Instead, they discuss both points of view and try and find a happy middle ground in which they can explore.
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That consensus building trickles out of the bedroom, says Edward Fernandes, a professor of sexuality specializing in swingers, at Barton University in North Carolina. One study from the University of Oklahoma, which compared monogamous and consensually nonmonogamous couples, found those in open relationships rated their happiness and health higher than their counterparts. Another study fromfound 90 per cent of couples said their marriage became happier after they started swinging.
Swinging tends to pull that curtain, and allows them to have direct communications with each other.
Swinging offers sexual freedom, but you have to play by the rules
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Watching porn can be a great way to get both parties in the mood. Great relationships need work, she says.
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Set aside a couple hours each week just to be with each other. No television, no distractions and if you want, no clothes.
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